Conversations With Everyday People
Ten years ago, Brandon Stanton decided to launch a curious project. Acting as though he was on a “mission of a madman,” he planned to approach strangers on New York City streets and in parks, “engage them in conversation,” take their picture and map his work. At first, he used conversations as captions for the pictures. Then his opening questions became deeper. His confidence grew and he began to understand that “random people” actually liked talking to him about themselves. Eventually, the conversations became “more central” than the photography.
Still, Stanton says, getting the conversation, the picture, the time isn’t easy. People tend to have “shields” – and going beyond those shields is sometimes “exhausting” – but he says that today, he looks on the sidelines for the best stories. He randomly hunts where nobody else is looking and he poses an opening question that’s almost irresistible: “What’s your greatest struggle right now?”
The answers, as you’ll learn in this book, go beyond everyday drama. You’ll read tales of lies and hidden lives, purpose found and opportunity rejected. Many tales feature missing parents or lost family connections because the storytellers are gay, angry, abandoned or mentally ill. There’s a boy who can’t understand why his father “loves touching his phone so much.” A man who sold his favorite piece of jewelry to buy his son a bicycle.
You’ll read stories of love between cultures and countries, and arranged marriages. There’s a man who would be king here. People and dogs or cats. People who have gone through trauma others can only imagine. And a man who “just had the best day of my life.”
Based on the website and popular “Humans of New York” project on social media, this book is a collection that features the Big Apple, of course, but it also expands the territory into other countries, as Stanton writes about how he overcame “shields” as he worked abroad. Like tales you’ll find online, the lengths here are as varied as the people profiled, and subject matter bounces and lands on a wide spectrum of experiences. Fans will find stories they’ll remember and some they won’t. New readers will find, to their great delight, that we’re not really as different as it seems.
Be prepared to be addicted: Reading “Humans” is like sticking your hand inside a bag of crunchy snacks. You’ll want more, and won’t be able to quit sampling, so enjoy this book, visit the website and get acquainted. l
“Humans” by Brandon Stanton. 448 pages. St. Martin’s Press. $35.
